A reader commented on this post:
‘Wow. I am fully in accord with the Church and recognize her ability to set her rules as she believes they are formed by Scripture, but laid out like that our policy looks awfully cold-hearted. Is it really any great shock that the pews are empty on Sunday?’
(Note: I don’t know where the reader lives, but we have a Saturday vigil mass and three Sunday Masses and our pews are far from empty. The majority of Catholic Churches in our city are not empty.)
Ouch! The reader rightly pointed out that the way the post was organized; it did come off rather harsh. I originally wrote the piece for a specific person who wanted to know where the Church taught that Catholics who marry outside the Church should not receive Holy Communion. Just the facts. Just the documentation.
I probably should have waited to post it until I edited it for the blog. Mea Culpa.
The case of a person who marries outside of the Church and is, therefore, unable to receive Eucharist is easily remedied. Such marriages are validated all the time.
But I suspect that what really seems harsh is that because the Church does not recognize a marriage celebrated outside the Church (if one of the spouses is Catholic) the couple is considered to be “living in sin”.
In our culture where sex has been reduced to a pleasurable activity instead of sacred act between a couple united in matrimony, this does seem very harsh. The conviction that sex outside of marriage is in any way a moral wrong seems antiquated at best. Oh and we are really stuck in the bad ole dark ages, because we define marriage as between one man and one woman.
In the Gospels, Jesus says many hard things. Anyone who thinks that Jesus was a nice non judgmental guru has not studied the bible.
Jesus said things like:
“Enter by the narrow gate; for the gate is wide and the way is easy, * that leads to destruction, and those who enter by it are many. 14 For the gate is narrow and the way is hard, that leads to life, and those who find it are few”.
Discipleship is not for wimps. Jesus calls us to pick up our cross and follow him. We are called to do God’s will and not ours.
We are called to be holy. We are not called to be nice.
We are called to bear our sufferings; to persevere in faith.
We are called to live in truth and to know that evil exists. We are not called to believe that the only evil is to suffer. In our culture, the only evils are unhappiness and suffering.
Jesus tells us that he is the truth. There is absolute truth. Jesus also said that the world would hate those who follow Him:
I gave them your word, and the world hated them, because they do not belong to the world any more than I belong to the world.
I do not ask that you take them out of the world but that you keep them from the evil one.
They do not belong to the world any more than I belong to the world.
Consecrate them in the truth. Your word is truth.
As you sent me into the world, so I sent them into the world.
And I consecrate myself for them, so that they also may be consecrated in truth. (John 17:14-19)
But God is merciful. We all sin. We all fall short of God’s glory. We turn away from Truth itself. That is why we have the sacrament of reconciliation. God touches us, forgives us. God gives us the grace to turn back to Him.
I have found that the churches teaching the hard truth are growing and the churches embracing moral relativism are losing members. Some churches are constantly seeking new members to replace the ones that are leaving. I’ve also heard the same from churches in other parts of the country, I’ve heard it said by pastors on national news shows. To teach Love without teaching about the consequences of sin is a grave disservice to the faithful. My children crave boundaries and they feel safer when we remind them about the rules. So thank you for teaching the truth, even if it is not “nice”.
I agree that I have an appreciation for the truth, even if it is not “nice”, and I am an example of someone who is considered to be living in sin. I am Catholic and was married in the Catholic Church. My ex-husband decided that sex was not a sacred act and committed adultery. He abandoned the marriage. We were divorced and I have since, remarried. I made the choice to remarry without appealing to the church for an annulment of my first marriage. I plan to apply to have my first marriage annulled, though, and if approved, would like to have my current marriage affirmed by the church. I do not currently receive Eucharist. I did the research and knew the consequences before I married a second time. It’s not nice, but it’s my truth. I don’t see empty pews in my church, but I definitely see an imbalance in ages. I don’t see many 20 and 30-somethings, like myself. It makes me sad, and in my opinion, (and this is a generalization) it’s because the majority of the Gen-X and Gen-Y lack boundaries.
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